Coping with Bereavement
If you are past your teens you probably suffered the loss of someone you care for. After all death is as common as birth but somehow we do not view it as part of the natural process of life. Our culture does not support grieving. It has also made us afraid of death and this is a further emotional burden on top of the challenge of change any type of loss carries in its stride.
When faced with the prospect of someone dear to us dying we invariably are pushed to our limits and quite often beyond. As if coping with life's changed circumstances wasn't enough our intellectual understanding of existence is also challeneged.
Losing someone suddenly, or very young highlights these existentialist fears and often gets one on a quest searching for answers beyond the realm of our three dimensional world.
Modern society has not got the support system extended families used to provide in the past. This is a great shame and explains why proper counselling can be important to ease the emotional pain. Seeking refuge in religions or cults is not a sound idea. Whilst it might give you temporary support, it is also a surefire way of giving away your personal power or freedom.
Bereavement is not limited to losing a loved one: You experience the emotions of bereavement, grief and loss also during divorce, bankruptcy or any other kind of loss that may be traumatic and trigger deep rooted feelings. The emotions of grief in response to any loss neeed to be coped with and integrated.
Failure to do so can seriously affect the quality of your life. Most people cope with grief and loss by suppressing its emotional effects. "Getting on with life" is the catch phrase of our society.
This is all well and good but I know from my own experience and experience with many clients that unless you face the bereavement and fully integrate it, you will suffer unnecessarily. Parts of your life will not work and sometimes 20 or 30 years later you may realise why. Often you may never know that unresolved bereavement was the real reason for your problems. That is a tragic waste indeed.
This need not be so. With energy psychology and cognitive therapy you can resolve and neutralise integrating the trauma of any kind of loss.
If you are lucky enough to realise that you may need help getting over the death of someone you care for, your divorce, or any other loss, you can take steps now to recover your equilibrium quickly and get your life back on track.
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