Empower your Relationships
Four Keys To Fulfilling Relationships
Happy relationships are one of the core features in the venn diagram. Health, realtionships, career.
Yet for over 50 % of married couples the statistics are very poor. If you look at a broader specturm of relationships prior to marriage and in business the picture is very gloomy indeed. Many of us have left behind a trail of failed relationships and bickering between colleagues at work is the norm. If you are having problems in your relationships you are probably repeating certain patterns, without realising it. You will subconsciously use these patterns or coping mechanism in your private life and your work life.
The resaon: Your relationships, like everything else in your life are the result of your beliefs, most of which are learned at an early age and are subconscious.
This applies not only to romantic relationships, but to all our partnerships, relations in business, with family and friends.
The Mirror Image...
It is a common belief that opposites attract, however this is untrue. All relationships are a mirror of you. Your weakness and your strengths. It is immaterial whether or not you are consciously aware of your strengths and weaknesses. The mirror principle remains the same. It is not always immediately obvious, but as a relationship matures you may notice how you both react in similar ways. The more aware you are how you are reacting to each other the easier you will find it to stop unresourceful behaviour that eventually can ruin a relationship.
You can learn to become aware and use it to your advantage, because once you realise that your partner's behaviour as a mirror of yourself you stop being judgemental. Judging an other's perceived weaknesses is one of the most common mistakes in all relationships.
Be Tolerant
We are all individuals with our own personal experiences and internal representations which shape our world. You can test the truth of this statement with this little game: Ask your partner or a colleague to play this little game: think about the word "summer" and write down 20 things each of you identifies with the word "summer". Then compare notes. You will be amazed at the difference in your ideas of "summer".
The point is clear, you cannot take for granted that you are both thinking the same, even if you say the same words...Give each other spaceand allow each other freedom of expression. You have nothing to lose. Your understanding of this simple principle'will help you difuse many a potential misunderstanding before it has a chance to become a blown out argument.
That Small Word Trust...
Trust, trust, trust. Most of us have forgotten what it means to trust. Be it at work, or in our personal relationships. Lack of trust causes many an unnecessary rift in our relationships. It leads to jealousy and obsessive behaviour. Learn to be at peace with yourself. If you are in tune with yourself and centred you will attract the same qualities in others. Make a conscious commitment to be the best you can be and learn from books or seminars to help you identify and deal with your weak spots.
Trusting in yourself gives you the confidence to be true to yourself and your desires and act with integrity. These are qualities that compound your attractor factor, be it for love, friendship or business relationships.
Geopathic Stress Harms Relationships
It is a little konwn fact that Geopathic stress is a major factor affecting personal relationships and working relationships. In over 80% of relationship break ups geopathic stress is present. My own research shows that geopathic stress is always present when there are persistent problems at the workplace, like high absenteeism, high turnover of staff etc. Long exposure to geopathic stress interferes with the normal functioning of the brain and thus contributes to behavioural problems and sickness. You can neutralise geopathic stress with energy vitalisers. Have your premises checked out for geopathic stress if you are unsure.
Why Forgiving Is So Important
Forgiving anothers' perceived wrong doing can be a challenge and you may not feel like it most of the time. But when you are emotional, angry and frustrated you are not very likely to see what really is going on in your relationship or what is triggering your anger. Awareness is key in all life siuations. When you learn to practice forgiveness you are showing strength rather than weakness. Strength and kindness are powerful relationship builders.
Empower your Relationships
